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This post discusses female ruined (or abandoned) orgasms, what they are and how to ruin an orgasm. If you have ever been curious about what a ruined female orgasm is and perhaps why anyone would want to experience one, you will have great difficulty in finding any information on the web about it. It seems no matter what search terms you enter in a web search engine like Google all the links will be pertain to ruining male orgasms. Evidently far more men than women are interested in orgasm denial and in having their orgasms ruined, or perhaps there are just heaps of Femdom women out there keen to learn how to ruin male orgasms. Regardless, if you Google “ruined orgasms” all the results you are going to get back will be about cock control. 

The whole idea behind tease and denial is to subject someone to intense sexual teasing while delaying or denying her orgasm. Consequently most teases, games, and challenges prohibit you from having an orgasm without permission and will instruct you to ruin your orgasm if you happen to have an unintended climax while edging. Some tease and denial play may even have a ruined orgasm as the intended end result of a teasing session.

While subjecting a woman to a ruined orgasm may seem cruel, and to some degree it is cruel, there are good reasons for the practice when it comes to tease and denial sexual play. Denying a woman the satisfying full release of a normal orgasm can leave her still in a heightened state of sexual arousal and ready for more teasing. It can even leave her feeling even more desperate for a full and satisfying orgasm. Ruined orgasms can also serve to motivate her to be more careful to avoid unintended orgasms in the future while edging since ruined orgasms can be quite unpleasant and frustrating.

The simplest and a very effective way to ruin an orgasm is immediately stopping all stimulation just as you hit the “point of no return” after edging where orgasm becomes inevitable. Removing the stimulation at this critical point often results in an unsatisfying, weak orgasm with few muscle contractions. The hard part is stopping the stimulation at just the right moment.

If you stop too soon, you may not tip over the edge and cum at all which is not really a bad thing if no orgasm was intended anyway. Worse is that continuing the stimulation for a few seconds too long can result in an orgasm that will be enjoyable and seem not much different than any other orgasm.

To effectively ruin an orgasm by stopping stimulation, it must be stopped as closely as possible to the exact moment when you feel yourself tipping over the edge and realize you are going to cum. With practice, you will become more adept at reading the physical cues that signal the approach of climax allowing you stop the stimulation at just the precise moment, ruining the orgasm. If an orgasm feels like it just sort of dribbled away, felt unsatisfying, and you feel at least some degree of frustration, then you can be confident that you did experience a ruined orgasm.

While a ruined orgasm can feel quite different to one person than to another, individual differences aside, if you are ever left wondering whether you actually did have a ruined orgasm, you probably didn’t. You likely continued the stimulation just a second or two too long. Ruined orgasms are just one of those things you recognize when you experience one. Just like edging and many other things associated with tease and denial play, when it comes to ruined orgasms, practice makes perfect.

This is good stuff! I’d just add one tip: Rather than stopping as closely as possible to the exact moment when you feel yourself tipping over the edge, it might be more effective to stop a little before that point and let momentum carry you over.