“Do not censor yourself. Let go of that part of your brain and just be.”
~Red Phoenix
When you first discovered your true place in life as a submissive, a Dominant/Domme, a Daddy, a little girl, a kitten, a Master or a slave- how did you feel?
Empowered? Confused? Excited? Worried? Relieved? Scared? It’s overwhelming and confusing but at the same time, it’s thrilling and so stimulating.
You discover this new part of you and now, you’re not sure where to turn. Where do I go from here? How do I do this? Who do I talk to? What does this mean?
You want to tell someone but it’s difficult and you’re afraid to come out to others and that’s more than okay.
You worry that they might view you as a freak, a sadist or they might think you had some odd Freudian issue or something to explain why you want to be part of “that thing”.
BDSM is still such a taboo topic despite the erotic literature and pornography that goes by on a daily basis. Society views BDSM in such a negative, scary, almost pitiful way- it’s no wonder that some feel worried about this new self discovery.
I’ve spoken to a lot of new and experienced submissives and a fair amount have told me the same thing when they said they first discovered this life, “I felt like no one would understand me”, but what really got to me was hearing a few people tell me, “At one point, I felt ashamed.”
Every since learning 3 years ago that my true place in life is living as a submissive, I have felt one thing that has lasted through all my trials and triumphs in my relationships- and that is Pride.
I felt so proud to finally be uncensored, revealed and honest with myself after wondering for years if my desires, cravings and needs were just something odd or if they would ever be fulfilled. And I discovered, this isn’t “just a phase” or some freakish thing. This is me. I am a submissive and I am beautiful because of it.
Who you are now, in this new life, is just as normal as being a man or woman. Who are you is magnificent and unprecedented.
Who you are is just as natural as being male, female, straight, gay, bi, pan, black, white, blonde, brunette or redhead. Who you are is beautiful and you are wonderful for all that you are.
Don’t ever let the fear of what society thinks or the fear of being viewed as an oddball or freak- everyone in life is a freak of a sort. We’re just adding more color to the mix of life.
Be proud of who you are as you embrace this journey and embrace the new self. Be uncensored, explore your kinks, speak to others in and outside of the BDSM community, learn and study the different aspects of BDSM, be filled with reassurance and hope that you are not alone and you are an awesome individual.
You are not strange or weird. You are natural and loved.
☝I love this……💙
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