Author: switchfun

what type of ropes are best?

fetishweekly:

That depends on the tied up person’s preference, really. They all have a different sensation against the skin; some are rough, some are smooth.

Polypropylene: the stuff you think of when you’re boating. It’s smooth but not very pliant and tends to not hold knots very well. I also wouldn’t recommend it if you’re playing with fire, because it does melt.

Polyester: a soft, pliable fiber. It holds knots quite well and is smooth against the skin. This is what bungee cord tends to be made of. I’d recommend it if the tied person doesn’t want something too rough against their skin, or if you’re doing anything in the genital region for the first time.

Natural fiber: these are your jute or hemp ropes. They’re quite rough and hold knots very well. They tend to be used in traditional bondage as you can boil them to clean without damage and are very sturdy.

When looking for a rope, regardless of which type you use, definitely choose a laid pattern, rather than braided. Braided will generally have a core, which can pop out after a few uses and make the rope look ugly and not hold its shape very well.

Hope this helps!

❤ Hazel

darkersideoflove:

She tied him to the vibrator, then sat back to watch.  His arms and feet were secured to the bed.  He couldn’t move an inch.  She had set the device to its very lowest setting – enough to stimulate, but not really enough to come.  For a while he was amused.  Then, he began trying to thrust against it, but found it moved with him.  After 10 minutes, he asked her to let him come.  ”That’s your responsibility,” she said.  ”I’m just here to watch.”  After half an hour, his cock was beet-red and swollen more than she’d ever seen it.  Droplets of pre-cum were oozing from the tip.  He was straining and grunting, trying everything in his power to bring himself across the edge to orgasm.

She adjusted the cushion of her seat.  And laughed.

     –  RomanceLoveLust

Source: darkersideoflove

ddlgdoodles:

Collar Information Post Part 2:

This post is a continuation of my first post on collaring, which can be viewed here. A lot of the information is the same when discussing the collar types but has been elaborated on a bit more for classification sake.

If you’re curious about where to buy collars, please view part 1 linked above.

Top row, left to right

Posture Collar – You’ve probably seen these collars in pictures, they tend to be fairly large and cover up most of the neck, some even touch the chin and the base of the skull. They are worn to for photographic purposes, as a fashion statement/fun, or a way to restrict neck movement, enhance posture, and keep a sub’s chin up to show respect.

Play collar – These collars are very commonly worn during scenes and tend to have no significant meaning behind them. You’ll also see them worn in fun picture sets for pet play. Play collars are typically dog collars, leather collars, or ribbon collars. Most of the time you’ll see them without locks since they’re meant to be put on taken off at the sub or bottom’s will.

Protection collar – This is when a Dom wants to show that a submissive is protected and is commonly used in dungeons or kinky house parties. This lets other Doms know that while this sub is not owned, they are not are free to touch or approach. These collars are typically dog collars or leather collars.

Consideration collar– This is one of the first steps in showing advancement in a D/s dynamic. It signifies that the submissive is being considered for a long term relationship or ownership, however, it is normally worn for an agreed on amount of time and can be revoked for any reason. These collars tend to be leather collars*.

Training collar – This type of collar shows that a submissive is currently being trained by a Dom. It gives a taste of the power that the Dom has over the sub. These collars also tend to be leather collars*.

Both consideration and training collars can be worn with locks. This, again, shows the control over the sub and lets them know that they have reached a point where their power exchange is becoming a more active part of their life.

*If worn out public, these collars can be substituted with a day collar. (Bottom row, right side)

Bottom Row, left side:

Ownership collar (also known as a formal collar or slave collar) – This is not to be taken lightly, it is the equivalent of giving/receiving a wedding ring and shows that the submissive is owned. An ownership collar is earned after a sub has completed their training or deemed worthy of being kept long term. This means it could be years before a sub receives an ownership collar. These collars can look like anything from a leather dog collar, to a metal collar (most commonly seen), to a symbolic piece of jewelry (a bracelet, anklet,  necklace, or ring). Some Doms even prefer to tattoo or brand their sub, this is more commonly done in the Master/slave dynamic and Gorean lifestyle. It’s completely up to the Dom and sub.

The meaning behind the collar should not be a game of guess work, especially ownership collars. If you have to ask yourself if the collar you’re wearing signifies that you’re owned, then it’s probably not an ownership collar. When a Dom gives you a collar they will (or should) tell you the meaning behind it and discuss any questions you may have regarding it. As for the type of collar given, it’s not the look of it that matters but the bond and meaning behind it.

Proper etiquette  and collars:
If you’re a Dom and you see a sub with a collar, you should avoid trying to make advancements of any sort unless you’ve talked it out with their Dom. Some Doms even require that you speak to them before even approaching or conversing with their sub. Do not disrespect the relationship or the Dom’s ownership.

If you’re a sub and wearing a consideration, training, or ownership collar you should not take off your collar (assuming it’s not locked or you have access to the key) without your Dom’s permission. Taking it off during arguments is considered rude and disrespectful. Doing so may even result in a punishment.

What is collaring?
Collaring is the moment that shows that a sub has completed their training and their relationship with their Dom has been taken to a new level. If you can think of consideration and training collars as engagement rings, the ownership collar is similar to a wedding ring. Sometimes ceremonies are held by the Dom to celebrate this moment.

For more information on collaring ceremonies and examples of how to plan one, please click here.

Just as Doms earn a sub’s submission through love and trust, a sub earns their collars through their hard work and devotion. Subs are not entitled to ownership collars just because they’ve been with their Dom for a couple months.

External links for more information on collaring:

Collars and Their Meanings

The Impact of Velcro Collars on the Symbolism by lunaKM

What It Means to be Collared by LadySneak

The Ring and the Collar by tequilarose