Make Him Your Male Slave
Chastity – Any man losing control of his cock to you is automatically putty in your hands. Let’s face it – that’s where half his brain is normally. Some, more. With the keys in your hand, and no chance of release, his chastity will be a constant 24×7 reminder of his new status. Every time he moves, it will feel like you are pulling him around by his cock. Better, his erections as he performs his other slave tasks for you will be inevitable – and quite uncomfortable. Don’t relent to his whining – a male slave needs to be completely sexually controlled. And no safety keys – he must know he’s committed.
But he will need encouragement. Constantly remind him how he’s given himself to you and how you cherish the sacrifice – but he needs this training to really become yours. And doesn’t he really want your satisfaction in his servitude? Trust me – he will be constantly aroused. And, frankly, associating arousal with pain and frustration is very much what you want to achieve. We want to train his mind more than his body.
Probably one of the most compelling things you can do to his head is to have him sign a slavery contract. There are hundreds of online samples. Pick the verbiage you like best. If you’re serious, make sure it’s explicit. No safewords or any way for the slave to terminate. Better, get him to read it while you record him before he signs it. But once he’s uttered the words “I am your owned slave, mistress”, he will remember them always…
Both of these can be sorted in your first session as owner and slave. Not your first session – you really should be starting this from an already established domme/sub, and, hopefully, intimate relationship. The Mistress / slave relationship can and should be highly intimate. If you don’t really love your slave, you’re really missing the best part of their surrender – their demonstration of their total devotion to you, and allowing you to make it formal and permanent.
For the first week, you really need to make sure your slave actually *feels* as though he’s your slave, even as you carry on normal parts of your life. But to transform him, he needs to be in as close to 24×7 submission as possible. After signing and the contract and accepting the chastity, he’s in a fragile state that you want to exploit but having him constantly feel ing submission.
The first task is pretty obvious – he must change his bathroom habits so he’s always sitting. His chastity will enforce that. Like a woman, he will need to have tissue to hand to dab himself. And you’ll never have to deal with a raised seat again!
But, a slave needs humiliation. And there’s the practical matter of making him ready to accept your own piss, should you choose to use him in that fashion. My recommendation is that you also assign to him as the final part of his bathroom ritual, before he flushes, cleaning of the seat so it will be pristine for you. And, of course, that means with his tongue – top and bottom. Yes, maybe allow him to clean it once properly with cleansers and such before the first time – you will be amazed how spotless it’s kept from now on! And there’s nothing hotter than your former lover, now slave, on his knees making your commode brilliant Just think how clean *you* will feel each time you use it! Maybe extend the task to include after your own use of it! I personally make my slave also clean both my toilet and my privates with his tongue whenever possible after I’ve used it. It will also force him to keep much better mouth hygiene.
But that’s perhaps an hour of his waking day … so much more time you need him to stay focused on his new status during this initial period. If you are a sadist, even just domme, I’d suggest rituals that will build his tolerance. My slave has very sensitive nipples, and I generally *love* to torture them in dungeon sessions. To keep them ultra-sensitive, when my slaves are in training, I have them perform a ritual of attaching clover clamps to them. Because they go numb, I do ask my slaves to put them on and remove them 5 times – 2 minutes on, one minute off. If one slips early … oh, well. Doesn’t count ;). I then make them repeat the process at specific hours of the day so I can call and check. With modern video tools, a mistress doesn’t need to be present to supervise. And, the threat of extending the chastity period for slacking is usually quite persuasive. Just to add to the effect, I make my slaves-in-training (or punishment) perform this ritual five times per day, including and especially at least once in the middle of the night. As I said, our goal is to get our slave in training to mentally associate his desires with submission to pain for our pleasure. Getting up at all hours to do this for you will emphasize your ownership and his obedience to it.
So … we’ve filled up lots of free time! But, we can’t allow idle thoughts. I think it best to always emphasize a slave’s vulnerability by ordering him to remain naked throughout as much of the day and night as possible. Similarly, other signs of his status are important. A locked slave collar is very compelling at all hours. He can wear a high necked shirt if he needs to be in public. At night, I like him to add cuffs or other restraints so that whenever he stirs in his sleep, he’s brought back to his new status immediately. Not uncomfortably – this is training, not punishment. And we want him rested and ready to serve us. Just some cuffs and short chains or links will do fine.
I like to add more active ritual for my slave. In addition to the self-inflicted nipple torture, I expect my slave to do a half hour per day of anal training and a half hour of oral training. By the end of the first week, he should be well ready to deep throat, and his backside will be much looser and easier for your enjoyment. Plugs or any dildo is fine. Obviously, start small for a new slave.
In all these activities, we want to discourage slacking. So we want to include copious photos and videos of your new possession meeting your requests. In addition, some photos with your name marked on him prominently is always a good idea. Your contract should include your right to expose these if your slave ever tries to leave you. If you register your slave, you may want his number painted on a few places so you can decide how you ultimately want him marked. Another contract item – be sure to include your right to mark his body as your property, however you choose. You have that right anyway if he’s a proper slave, but making him say those terms and sign to them… he’ll be so much more manageable.
We also want to include a few tasks a bit more humiliating. He is your slave, so he should feel your right to enjoy his fears and humiliations. I’d suggest some small things. A little feminization, perhaps. I usually make my new slaves polish their nails several times during their first week. A bright color, of course, fingers and toes. And it will train him how to do the task for you. Also, if you can find footwear that will fit him, making him walk a half hour per day in heels will teach him a lesson in the comfort of such things! I also make my slave visit the local pool daily and circle it a prescribed number of times wearing the thinnest of suits. His metal chastity is clearly outlined. And some women I know that understand his status are always about to tease him. My final coup de grace is usually to have him put on feminine underclothes, full makeup and lipstick and make a video of a walk through the local mall. Oh the surprised looks he records! Trust he’s begging to do anything to avoid that task again!
Finally, the most prosaic of tasks should also be made into a slave ritual. What little time is left in the day s usually for preparing meals – naked – and eating. My new slaves are only allowed to eat from bowls on the ground. I also make them eat dog food the first week. It sounds horrible, but it isn’t all that bad tasting (so I’m told!) and it’s nutritious enough. And it is so reinforcing of his new status. He’s your pet and possession. And any time for preparing meals can be spent on you! It’s also great to feed him from your hand, if you have the time. As a special initiation, I also make it a point to feed my slave the ‘gravy’ style of dog food. I expect I will regularly acquaint him with drinking my piss, but in this tender new stage, I frequently command him to use his own. The shock and humiliation are priceless. After the first session, I really felt his soul was now utterly mine.
So many tasks! But that’s the idea. Simple, time-consuming, and very slavish and humiliating tasks. We’re training your man’s head. If he’s not responded to the training in a week … oh, well. On we go! Sooner or later, total slavery will take over his thoughts and your life together will go on to new and more special chapters. Cherish his devotion. Love him madly and encourage him. Punishments will be yours to enjoy later. If he’s faltering, just be patient and enjoy his efforts. Enjoy!
Author: switchfun
Make Him Your Male Slave
Chastity – Any man losing control of his cock to you is automatically putty in your hands. Let’s face it – that’s where half his brain is normally. Some, more. With the keys in your hand, and no chance of release, his chastity will be a constant 24×7 reminder of his new status. Every time he moves, it will feel like you are pulling him around by his cock. Better, his erections as he performs his other slave tasks for you will be inevitable – and quite uncomfortable. Don’t relent to his whining – a male slave needs to be completely sexually controlled. And no safety keys – he must know he’s committed.
But he will need encouragement. Constantly remind him how he’s given himself to you and how you cherish the sacrifice – but he needs this training to really become yours. And doesn’t he really want your satisfaction in his servitude? Trust me – he will be constantly aroused. And, frankly, associating arousal with pain and frustration is very much what you want to achieve. We want to train his mind more than his body.
Probably one of the most compelling things you can do to his head is to have him sign a slavery contract. There are hundreds of online samples. Pick the verbiage you like best. If you’re serious, make sure it’s explicit. No safewords or any way for the slave to terminate. Better, get him to read it while you record him before he signs it. But once he’s uttered the words “I am your owned slave, mistress”, he will remember them always…
Both of these can be sorted in your first session as owner and slave. Not your first session – you really should be starting this from an already established domme/sub, and, hopefully, intimate relationship. The Mistress / slave relationship can and should be highly intimate. If you don’t really love your slave, you’re really missing the best part of their surrender – their demonstration of their total devotion to you, and allowing you to make it formal and permanent.
For the first week, you really need to make sure your slave actually *feels* as though he’s your slave, even as you carry on normal parts of your life. But to transform him, he needs to be in as close to 24×7 submission as possible. After signing and the contract and accepting the chastity, he’s in a fragile state that you want to exploit but having him constantly feel ing submission.
The first task is pretty obvious – he must change his bathroom habits so he’s always sitting. His chastity will enforce that. Like a woman, he will need to have tissue to hand to dab himself. And you’ll never have to deal with a raised seat again!
But, a slave needs humiliation. And there’s the practical matter of making him ready to accept your own piss, should you choose to use him in that fashion. My recommendation is that you also assign to him as the final part of his bathroom ritual, before he flushes, cleaning of the seat so it will be pristine for you. And, of course, that means with his tongue – top and bottom. Yes, maybe allow him to clean it once properly with cleansers and such before the first time – you will be amazed how spotless it’s kept from now on! And there’s nothing hotter than your former lover, now slave, on his knees making your commode brilliant Just think how clean *you* will feel each time you use it! Maybe extend the task to include after your own use of it! I personally make my slave also clean both my toilet and my privates with his tongue whenever possible after I’ve used it. It will also force him to keep much better mouth hygiene.
But that’s perhaps an hour of his waking day … so much more time you need him to stay focused on his new status during this initial period. If you are a sadist, even just domme, I’d suggest rituals that will build his tolerance. My slave has very sensitive nipples, and I generally *love* to torture them in dungeon sessions. To keep them ultra-sensitive, when my slaves are in training, I have them perform a ritual of attaching clover clamps to them. Because they go numb, I do ask my slaves to put them on and remove them 5 times – 2 minutes on, one minute off. If one slips early … oh, well. Doesn’t count ;). I then make them repeat the process at specific hours of the day so I can call and check. With modern video tools, a mistress doesn’t need to be present to supervise. And, the threat of extending the chastity period for slacking is usually quite persuasive. Just to add to the effect, I make my slaves-in-training (or punishment) perform this ritual five times per day, including and especially at least once in the middle of the night. As I said, our goal is to get our slave in training to mentally associate his desires with submission to pain for our pleasure. Getting up at all hours to do this for you will emphasize your ownership and his obedience to it.
So … we’ve filled up lots of free time! But, we can’t allow idle thoughts. I think it best to always emphasize a slave’s vulnerability by ordering him to remain naked throughout as much of the day and night as possible. Similarly, other signs of his status are important. A locked slave collar is very compelling at all hours. He can wear a high necked shirt if he needs to be in public. At night, I like him to add cuffs or other restraints so that whenever he stirs in his sleep, he’s brought back to his new status immediately. Not uncomfortably – this is training, not punishment. And we want him rested and ready to serve us. Just some cuffs and short chains or links will do fine.
I like to add more active ritual for my slave. In addition to the self-inflicted nipple torture, I expect my slave to do a half hour per day of anal training and a half hour of oral training. By the end of the first week, he should be well ready to deep throat, and his backside will be much looser and easier for your enjoyment. Plugs or any dildo is fine. Obviously, start small for a new slave.
In all these activities, we want to discourage slacking. So we want to include copious photos and videos of your new possession meeting your requests. In addition, some photos with your name marked on him prominently is always a good idea. Your contract should include your right to expose these if your slave ever tries to leave you. If you register your slave, you may want his number painted on a few places so you can decide how you ultimately want him marked. Another contract item – be sure to include your right to mark his body as your property, however you choose. You have that right anyway if he’s a proper slave, but making him say those terms and sign to them… he’ll be so much more manageable.
We also want to include a few tasks a bit more humiliating. He is your slave, so he should feel your right to enjoy his fears and humiliations. I’d suggest some small things. A little feminization, perhaps. I usually make my new slaves polish their nails several times during their first week. A bright color, of course, fingers and toes. And it will train him how to do the task for you. Also, if you can find footwear that will fit him, making him walk a half hour per day in heels will teach him a lesson in the comfort of such things! I also make my slave visit the local pool daily and circle it a prescribed number of times wearing the thinnest of suits. His metal chastity is clearly outlined. And some women I know that understand his status are always about to tease him. My final coup de grace is usually to have him put on feminine underclothes, full makeup and lipstick and make a video of a walk through the local mall. Oh the surprised looks he records! Trust he’s begging to do anything to avoid that task again!
Finally, the most prosaic of tasks should also be made into a slave ritual. What little time is left in the day s usually for preparing meals – naked – and eating. My new slaves are only allowed to eat from bowls on the ground. I also make them eat dog food the first week. It sounds horrible, but it isn’t all that bad tasting (so I’m told!) and it’s nutritious enough. And it is so reinforcing of his new status. He’s your pet and possession. And any time for preparing meals can be spent on you! It’s also great to feed him from your hand, if you have the time. As a special initiation, I also make it a point to feed my slave the ‘gravy’ style of dog food. I expect I will regularly acquaint him with drinking my piss, but in this tender new stage, I frequently command him to use his own. The shock and humiliation are priceless. After the first session, I really felt his soul was now utterly mine.
So many tasks! But that’s the idea. Simple, time-consuming, and very slavish and humiliating tasks. We’re training your man’s head. If he’s not responded to the training in a week … oh, well. On we go! Sooner or later, total slavery will take over his thoughts and your life together will go on to new and more special chapters. Cherish his devotion. Love him madly and encourage him. Punishments will be yours to enjoy later. If he’s faltering, just be patient and enjoy his efforts. Enjoy!
Female Domination: Top Ten things to Do
1.Sexual Control
If you want to dominate your man in the bedroom, sexual control is the most basic requirement. This fantasy is about giving you all the sexual power, so your pleasure must come first. Think about it, from the woman’s perspective, most sexual encounters tend to shorter and less satisfying than she would like. Not this time. For this encounter, he is only allowed to orgasm when (and if) you permit it. If he cannot agree to this basic rule, then all bets are off. If, on the other hand, he agrees, well then for all practical purposes you are already in charge of the bedroom. As usual, he will want to rush to the main attraction, but now you can extend the foreplay for as long as you want. And, the hornier he gets, the more desperately willing he will be to do anything and everything you say. The truth is, a certain amount of sexual frustration on his part is what gives you power. Sexual control really is the basis for all domination/submission foreplay.2.Sexy Enslavement
The next step is to make him your own personal love slave. Order him to serve you wine, give you a massage, strip naked, kneel at your feet… literally anything you want. For this night he is yours…so have fun with it. Just be sure to speak with authority. Tell him what to do, and expect him to obey immediately, without question. Remember, if you want him to treat you like a Queen, you have to act like a Queen. So approach this role play with confidence. Also, you may even want to give him strict rules to reinforce your dominance. A few common ideas: make him only address you a formal title (Queen, Mistress, etc.), prohibit from asking any questions, restrict him from touching your body or himself during foreplay etc. Obviously, he must be punished if he ever breaks any of your rules. Finally, never forget that, though he must wait patiently for when (and if) he get to climax, you face no such restriction. So, use him as a sex slave. This may mean you order him to give you oral sex. Or if you prefer, bring a vibrator into the bedroom. Whatever it takes to get yours. After all, the ultimate goal of any “slave” is the pleasure and satisfaction of his mistress.3.Bondage
The most direct way to take control of the bedroom is to introduce bondage. This can be as basic as blindfolding him during foreplay and/or sex. Or, it may involve binding his hands or otherwise restraining him. Either way, there is something incredibly erotic about the loss of control. Bondage puts him in a very vulnerable position, which for most men (whether they admit it or not) is a huge turn on.
Binding his hands (or handcuffing him) is good for simple play. But, it is really worth experimenting with slightly more advance bondage. Probably the most popular bondage position is spread eagle- where both his and ankles are tied down to the bed. From this position he can squirm, but he won’t be able to escape. You meanwhile, have total control. You can play with body for as long as you desire. This may include giving him pleasure and stimulation of various kinds, or making him give you pleasure. For example, one rather evil, but fun, thing it try from this position is called face sitting: straddle his face while he’s tied up, and order him to give you oral pleasure. Or, pleasure yourself while he is restrained. Watching (or listening) to you pleasure yourself while not being able to participate (or touch himself) is an intense, but erotic torment for any man. Finally, if you really want be dangerous, use temperature to enhance his stimulation. Ice can really enhance both pleasure and pain…as can heat. You can, for example, drag ice across his chest or carefully drip hot wax on his body while he his restrained. Overall, bondage in its various forms is easiest way to turn your hunky man into your own personal little sex toy. Just be sure to play safe! Always use a safeword, and invest in a few toys designed for this type of play.4.Erotic Teasing
Once you have him tied up, what’s next? Well, the best thing to do now is tease him mercilessly. There is nothing sexier than watching your man squirm helplessly while you have your way with him. Touch his body slowly, rub him, kiss various parts of his body, tickle him, speak to him seductively…whatever it takes to drive him wild with lust. The main idea here is to bring him close to climax, and then deny him. In addition to be fun, erotic teasing reinforces the exchange of sexual power. He only gets to release if and when you want him to. Until then, his body is your plaything. Obviously, all of this is highly related to number 3. There is a ton of overlap between teasing and bondage. But, you can certainly tease him without bondage. Just act as seductively as possible, and it will drive him crazy. In the context of idea 1 (sexual control) even mild teasing can have a dramatic effect on him. So have fun with it…casually introduce some new lingerie, tell him how wet you are, neglect to wear underwear…whatever. You can even tease him before the foreplay officially starts. Leave him a sexy voicemail or text message; he will be thinking about you all day.5.Corporal Punishment
Admit it, you want him to be your whipping boy. He (secretly) wants it too. So, make it happen! Corporal punishment can refer to anything from light erotic spanking to flogging with a whip or crop. And it can be anything from extremely mild and playful to painful and intense. Early on most women want to approach with caution, starting out with gentle play and gradually becoming more aggressive over time. Obviously, if you are going to experiment with any form of punishment make sure you and your man on the same page. Talk about things beforehand, and keep communication open before and after all sessions, and use a safe word.6.Non-corporal Punishment
Spanking and/or whipping can certainly be both fun and arousing. But, there are plenty of other, more interesting ways to discipline a naughty boy. Even without exploring hardcore S&M, there are literally hundreds of clever ways to punish him. A few examples: pinch him aggressively, put him in time out, make do a difficult or repetitive task, prohibit him from speaking, physically gag him, use clothespins on his body, make him wear a collar and leash, make him lick your boots and/or feet, temporarily deny him food or other rewards, etc. Also, as discussed earlier, cold (ice) and heat (wax) can be used to enhance physical pain or as punishments in their own right. And, of course, bondage itself can be a form of punishment (his hands will be tied if he gets too touchy, etc.). The possibilities really are endless, just use your imagination. If all else fails, order him to come up with his own punishments. You may be surprised what kind of things he comes up with. Also, keep in mind, some punishment ideas work well for disciplining him and/or teaching him a lesson, while others may be better if you simply want to torture him a bit for your own amusement. Remember, no matter how sweet and loving you are under normal circumstances, in this context you need to embrace your evil side. This is the one time in life when it’s perfectly ok to be a little cruel and devious. Domination play is strange that way. You torture him, and he loves you for it.7.Mind Games
Ladies if you really want to dominate the bedroom, you can’t just play with his body…you have to mess with his head! A few ideas:
-Fickle Mistress: Tell him you feel sorry for him- you are going to stop playing with him and give him exactly what he desires, right now. Then start rubbing and kissing him. But then, just before the climax, abruptly change your mind. Or, alternatively, play the opposite game. Tell him you have decided he will not be allowed to orgasm tonight and the decision is final (even if it isn’t). In his desperation, he will suddenly become even more obedient and submissive.
-Playful Threats: Just as your session begins, tell him you are going all out tonight. Tell him to prepare his mind, because you are going to enjoy really making him suffer. He will be both intimidated and incredibly aroused by these threats. Or, tell him that you have something special planned (a really evil new punishment perhaps). Even if you don’t have anything particularly special, the anticipation will drive him crazy. Later, if you didn’t unveil a new punishment, just tell him that he was such a good boy you didn’t need it. He will just have to wait till next time.
-Begging: Make him beg for release, and then tease him about it. Laugh, giggle, and tell him how amusing you find his predicament. This, will of course, make him want to beg even more…creating (for him) a vicious cycle.
-Interrogation: Accuse him of a “crime” or bad behavior. If he denies, tease/torture him until he confesses. The “crime” can just be something silly or sexy (did you masturbate last week? Etc.) Of course, once he admits to whatever it is, you will have punish him for it. The funny thing is, you can play this game whether he is “guilty” of the “crime” or not.
The bottom line is, playing with his mind can be just as powerful as playing with his body.8.Roleplaying and Fantasy Scenarios
In the bedroom, many people enjoy sexual roleplaying. And why not…what woman does not like getting into costume now and again? Perhaps you’ve played the role of frisky maid or naughty schoolgirl? Well there are plenty of ways to use role playing scenarios in the context of bondage and submission/domination. For some people, role playing a formal scenario can help set the scene and keep things interesting. A few common ideas:
Wealthy Roman lady purchases a captured warrior to be used as her own personal pleasure slave.
Sexy teacher must discipline a male student who simply will not behave himself.
Wicked young princess (or Queen) decides to have some fun with the royal whipping boy.
Seductive sorceress puts a magical spell on a handsome knight.
Female detective uses unorthodox methods when interrogating a male suspect.
Naive delivery boy falls into the clutches of a seductive (and sadistic) dominatrix.
These are just a few ideas. But, again, the possibilities are endless. Develop as scene that suits your own tastes, and have at it.9.Slave Training
If you plan to play the dominate role frequently (or at least experiment with it occasionally), it may be useful to “train him” in what you like. This may sound crazy, but the truth he won’t become your perfect little sex slave without some training. This could simply mean you establish a basic routine (every scene starts with him stripping, kneeling down, and putting his hands behind his back). Or, you may make him memorize specific commands. Perhaps snapping your fingers means that he is to assume the position for a spanking. Training can also mean you teach him how to give you satisfying massages or foot rubs. The point is, you can train him to do whatever you want. Now, when training him, both positive and negative reinforcement can be quite useful. If he has performed well, tell him (good boy) and perhaps give him some kind of reward. Obviously, if he ever performs poorly, he should be punished. At the very least, you should use the domination fantasy experience to train him in how to give you good oral sex. It may take him a bit, but he will improve. You may soon find yourself having many more orgasms, on a more regular basis, than you ever thought possible.10.Body Worship
Last but not least, body worship should become a staple of your bedroom activities. Religious folks out there…please do not be offended! This not blasphemy we’re talking about here. Rather, it’s just a common term used in domination play. And, why not? You are sexual goddess, he needs to treat you like one. The thing is, and let’s be honest, there are plenty of times when he is much hornier than you are. He wants it so bad, while you could basically take it or leave it. Well, put all that sexual energy to good use! Have him lavish your body with tender affection and sensual indulgence…kisses, caresses, massage, whatever it is that you like. The advantage of body worship is that is does not have to be explicitly sexual. It could as simple as kissing your hand or rubbing your feet. Just tell him what you want, and watch him go all out. (you may decide to give him some strictly enforced restrictions as well…no groping or touching of the breasts, etc.) Of course you, as the sexy lady, do not have to do anything to reciprocate his affections. You can literally be reading a book or watching tv while he worships your body. Amusingly, if you do ignore him, this will tend to make him more aroused, not less. Try as he might, all this physical affection will do nothing to relieve the sexual pressure building up inside him. Thus, as he obsesses on your body, he gradually become even more aroused (and enslaved). You’re doing nothing, while he is become ever more wrapped around your finger. Oh, what fun!
Female Domination: Top Ten things to Do
1.Sexual Control
If you want to dominate your man in the bedroom, sexual control is the most basic requirement. This fantasy is about giving you all the sexual power, so your pleasure must come first. Think about it, from the woman’s perspective, most sexual encounters tend to shorter and less satisfying than she would like. Not this time. For this encounter, he is only allowed to orgasm when (and if) you permit it. If he cannot agree to this basic rule, then all bets are off. If, on the other hand, he agrees, well then for all practical purposes you are already in charge of the bedroom. As usual, he will want to rush to the main attraction, but now you can extend the foreplay for as long as you want. And, the hornier he gets, the more desperately willing he will be to do anything and everything you say. The truth is, a certain amount of sexual frustration on his part is what gives you power. Sexual control really is the basis for all domination/submission foreplay.2.Sexy Enslavement
The next step is to make him your own personal love slave. Order him to serve you wine, give you a massage, strip naked, kneel at your feet… literally anything you want. For this night he is yours…so have fun with it. Just be sure to speak with authority. Tell him what to do, and expect him to obey immediately, without question. Remember, if you want him to treat you like a Queen, you have to act like a Queen. So approach this role play with confidence. Also, you may even want to give him strict rules to reinforce your dominance. A few common ideas: make him only address you a formal title (Queen, Mistress, etc.), prohibit from asking any questions, restrict him from touching your body or himself during foreplay etc. Obviously, he must be punished if he ever breaks any of your rules. Finally, never forget that, though he must wait patiently for when (and if) he get to climax, you face no such restriction. So, use him as a sex slave. This may mean you order him to give you oral sex. Or if you prefer, bring a vibrator into the bedroom. Whatever it takes to get yours. After all, the ultimate goal of any “slave” is the pleasure and satisfaction of his mistress.3.Bondage
The most direct way to take control of the bedroom is to introduce bondage. This can be as basic as blindfolding him during foreplay and/or sex. Or, it may involve binding his hands or otherwise restraining him. Either way, there is something incredibly erotic about the loss of control. Bondage puts him in a very vulnerable position, which for most men (whether they admit it or not) is a huge turn on.
Binding his hands (or handcuffing him) is good for simple play. But, it is really worth experimenting with slightly more advance bondage. Probably the most popular bondage position is spread eagle- where both his and ankles are tied down to the bed. From this position he can squirm, but he won’t be able to escape. You meanwhile, have total control. You can play with body for as long as you desire. This may include giving him pleasure and stimulation of various kinds, or making him give you pleasure. For example, one rather evil, but fun, thing it try from this position is called face sitting: straddle his face while he’s tied up, and order him to give you oral pleasure. Or, pleasure yourself while he is restrained. Watching (or listening) to you pleasure yourself while not being able to participate (or touch himself) is an intense, but erotic torment for any man. Finally, if you really want be dangerous, use temperature to enhance his stimulation. Ice can really enhance both pleasure and pain…as can heat. You can, for example, drag ice across his chest or carefully drip hot wax on his body while he his restrained. Overall, bondage in its various forms is easiest way to turn your hunky man into your own personal little sex toy. Just be sure to play safe! Always use a safeword, and invest in a few toys designed for this type of play.4.Erotic Teasing
Once you have him tied up, what’s next? Well, the best thing to do now is tease him mercilessly. There is nothing sexier than watching your man squirm helplessly while you have your way with him. Touch his body slowly, rub him, kiss various parts of his body, tickle him, speak to him seductively…whatever it takes to drive him wild with lust. The main idea here is to bring him close to climax, and then deny him. In addition to be fun, erotic teasing reinforces the exchange of sexual power. He only gets to release if and when you want him to. Until then, his body is your plaything. Obviously, all of this is highly related to number 3. There is a ton of overlap between teasing and bondage. But, you can certainly tease him without bondage. Just act as seductively as possible, and it will drive him crazy. In the context of idea 1 (sexual control) even mild teasing can have a dramatic effect on him. So have fun with it…casually introduce some new lingerie, tell him how wet you are, neglect to wear underwear…whatever. You can even tease him before the foreplay officially starts. Leave him a sexy voicemail or text message; he will be thinking about you all day.5.Corporal Punishment
Admit it, you want him to be your whipping boy. He (secretly) wants it too. So, make it happen! Corporal punishment can refer to anything from light erotic spanking to flogging with a whip or crop. And it can be anything from extremely mild and playful to painful and intense. Early on most women want to approach with caution, starting out with gentle play and gradually becoming more aggressive over time. Obviously, if you are going to experiment with any form of punishment make sure you and your man on the same page. Talk about things beforehand, and keep communication open before and after all sessions, and use a safe word.6.Non-corporal Punishment
Spanking and/or whipping can certainly be both fun and arousing. But, there are plenty of other, more interesting ways to discipline a naughty boy. Even without exploring hardcore S&M, there are literally hundreds of clever ways to punish him. A few examples: pinch him aggressively, put him in time out, make do a difficult or repetitive task, prohibit him from speaking, physically gag him, use clothespins on his body, make him wear a collar and leash, make him lick your boots and/or feet, temporarily deny him food or other rewards, etc. Also, as discussed earlier, cold (ice) and heat (wax) can be used to enhance physical pain or as punishments in their own right. And, of course, bondage itself can be a form of punishment (his hands will be tied if he gets too touchy, etc.). The possibilities really are endless, just use your imagination. If all else fails, order him to come up with his own punishments. You may be surprised what kind of things he comes up with. Also, keep in mind, some punishment ideas work well for disciplining him and/or teaching him a lesson, while others may be better if you simply want to torture him a bit for your own amusement. Remember, no matter how sweet and loving you are under normal circumstances, in this context you need to embrace your evil side. This is the one time in life when it’s perfectly ok to be a little cruel and devious. Domination play is strange that way. You torture him, and he loves you for it.7.Mind Games
Ladies if you really want to dominate the bedroom, you can’t just play with his body…you have to mess with his head! A few ideas:
-Fickle Mistress: Tell him you feel sorry for him- you are going to stop playing with him and give him exactly what he desires, right now. Then start rubbing and kissing him. But then, just before the climax, abruptly change your mind. Or, alternatively, play the opposite game. Tell him you have decided he will not be allowed to orgasm tonight and the decision is final (even if it isn’t). In his desperation, he will suddenly become even more obedient and submissive.
-Playful Threats: Just as your session begins, tell him you are going all out tonight. Tell him to prepare his mind, because you are going to enjoy really making him suffer. He will be both intimidated and incredibly aroused by these threats. Or, tell him that you have something special planned (a really evil new punishment perhaps). Even if you don’t have anything particularly special, the anticipation will drive him crazy. Later, if you didn’t unveil a new punishment, just tell him that he was such a good boy you didn’t need it. He will just have to wait till next time.
-Begging: Make him beg for release, and then tease him about it. Laugh, giggle, and tell him how amusing you find his predicament. This, will of course, make him want to beg even more…creating (for him) a vicious cycle.
-Interrogation: Accuse him of a “crime” or bad behavior. If he denies, tease/torture him until he confesses. The “crime” can just be something silly or sexy (did you masturbate last week? Etc.) Of course, once he admits to whatever it is, you will have punish him for it. The funny thing is, you can play this game whether he is “guilty” of the “crime” or not.
The bottom line is, playing with his mind can be just as powerful as playing with his body.8.Roleplaying and Fantasy Scenarios
In the bedroom, many people enjoy sexual roleplaying. And why not…what woman does not like getting into costume now and again? Perhaps you’ve played the role of frisky maid or naughty schoolgirl? Well there are plenty of ways to use role playing scenarios in the context of bondage and submission/domination. For some people, role playing a formal scenario can help set the scene and keep things interesting. A few common ideas:
Wealthy Roman lady purchases a captured warrior to be used as her own personal pleasure slave.
Sexy teacher must discipline a male student who simply will not behave himself.
Wicked young princess (or Queen) decides to have some fun with the royal whipping boy.
Seductive sorceress puts a magical spell on a handsome knight.
Female detective uses unorthodox methods when interrogating a male suspect.
Naive delivery boy falls into the clutches of a seductive (and sadistic) dominatrix.
These are just a few ideas. But, again, the possibilities are endless. Develop as scene that suits your own tastes, and have at it.9.Slave Training
If you plan to play the dominate role frequently (or at least experiment with it occasionally), it may be useful to “train him” in what you like. This may sound crazy, but the truth he won’t become your perfect little sex slave without some training. This could simply mean you establish a basic routine (every scene starts with him stripping, kneeling down, and putting his hands behind his back). Or, you may make him memorize specific commands. Perhaps snapping your fingers means that he is to assume the position for a spanking. Training can also mean you teach him how to give you satisfying massages or foot rubs. The point is, you can train him to do whatever you want. Now, when training him, both positive and negative reinforcement can be quite useful. If he has performed well, tell him (good boy) and perhaps give him some kind of reward. Obviously, if he ever performs poorly, he should be punished. At the very least, you should use the domination fantasy experience to train him in how to give you good oral sex. It may take him a bit, but he will improve. You may soon find yourself having many more orgasms, on a more regular basis, than you ever thought possible.10.Body Worship
Last but not least, body worship should become a staple of your bedroom activities. Religious folks out there…please do not be offended! This not blasphemy we’re talking about here. Rather, it’s just a common term used in domination play. And, why not? You are sexual goddess, he needs to treat you like one. The thing is, and let’s be honest, there are plenty of times when he is much hornier than you are. He wants it so bad, while you could basically take it or leave it. Well, put all that sexual energy to good use! Have him lavish your body with tender affection and sensual indulgence…kisses, caresses, massage, whatever it is that you like. The advantage of body worship is that is does not have to be explicitly sexual. It could as simple as kissing your hand or rubbing your feet. Just tell him what you want, and watch him go all out. (you may decide to give him some strictly enforced restrictions as well…no groping or touching of the breasts, etc.) Of course you, as the sexy lady, do not have to do anything to reciprocate his affections. You can literally be reading a book or watching tv while he worships your body. Amusingly, if you do ignore him, this will tend to make him more aroused, not less. Try as he might, all this physical affection will do nothing to relieve the sexual pressure building up inside him. Thus, as he obsesses on your body, he gradually become even more aroused (and enslaved). You’re doing nothing, while he is become ever more wrapped around your finger. Oh, what fun!
Verbal Humiliation When You Peg Him
Make your sub talk dirty. Make the sub beg, over and over, for what you know s/he wants. So you get him naked, and he’s hard.
Then you have this conversation:
“Wow, you’re hard already; you’re a horny little slut, aren’t you?“
Yes.
“Say it.“
I’m a horny little slut.
"Louder.”
I’m a horny little slut.
“Good boy. All ready to be fucked, are you?"
Yes.
"Beg me."
Please.
"Please what?"
Please fuck me.
"Louder."
Please fuck me.
"Why? Is it because you’re my little slut?"
Yes.
"Yes what?"
Yes, I’m your little slut.
"Louder."
Yes, I’m your little slut.
"So, you’re my little slut and you want to be fucked, you need to be fucked, right?"
Yes, I’m your little slut and I need to be fucked.
"Louder."
Yes, I’m your little slut and I need to be fucked.
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While you’re fucking him with your Strap On Dilco, you can keep doing the same basic thing.
"Oh, you like that, don’t you?” and “It’s because you’re a little whore, isn’t it?” and “You’d do anything to get fucked like this, wouldn’t you?” and “I could stop right now; beg me to keep going.” and then actually stop until he begs, and so on like that. Each time, make him confess that he’s a slut/whore/dirty/shameless/whatever, then make him repeat it louder.
MAKE HIM BE VERBAL WHEN YOU FUCK HIM
- moan when I enter you
- call me your mistress
- tell me how big my strap on is
- gasp, sigh, yelp, pant, moan
- tell me how deep inside you feel it
- when I pull it out, wiggle your hips at me and beg me to put it in again
- reach down with your hand to feel the point where I enter you, the girth of my shaft stretching you wide
- squeeze your hole around me and tell me you want my strap on
MAKE HIM BE VERBAL WHEN YOU FUCK HIM
- moan when I enter you
- call me your mistress
- tell me how big my strap on is
- gasp, sigh, yelp, pant, moan
- tell me how deep inside you feel it
- when I pull it out, wiggle your hips at me and beg me to put it in again
- reach down with your hand to feel the point where I enter you, the girth of my shaft stretching you wide
- squeeze your hole around me and tell me you want my strap on
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