I’ll do one better: When is the right time to break off ANY kind of relationship (romantic, sexual, platonic, business, friendship, etc)?
The right time to break it off is when it’s become clear that they don’t respect you.
But what does that mean? After all, “respect” is a tricky word with many nuanced meanings. There’s the “I fear you” kind of respect, where they’re careful not to cross you for fear of the consequences you’ll mete out. There’s the “I worship you” kind of respect, where they idolize you and heap praise upon you and live vicariously through you. Those have their place, but they’re superficial, and not the kinds of respect I’m talking about:
- Respect as in taking the initiative to learn and explore who they really are.
- Respect as in taking an interest and concern in their personal growth.
- Respect as in being there when they break down from the weight they bear, and helping them back up.
- Respect as in understanding their weaknesses so that you know where to step in when they’re under attack, rather than as a catalog of places to “low blow” them.
- Respect as in knowing their unique needs, and helping them meet those needs where appropriate.
- Respect as in comforting them when they’re down.
- Respect as in taking joy and pride in their accomplishments.
- Respect as in telling them when you think they’ve done the wrong thing.
- Respect as in building their confidence back up when it falters.
- Respect as in understanding their limitations and not crossing them.
- Respect as in knowing their deepest fears and not weaponizing them.
- Respect as in being honest with them.
- Respect as in hearing them and listening to what they say.
When you truly respect someone, you’ll step in to make a positive difference in their life. You’ll encourage them to better themselves. You’ll be their ally when they’re under siege. You’ll make them feel that they’re being heard, and that their contributions and efforts are making a positive difference.
Respect is when your goal is to build a sum that’s greater than its parts, rather than to look for what you can extract for yourself.
Just showing how the buckle in the back of the shock belt comes undone for plug placement. Important for Sir to have the option to add a plug without having to take the whole belt off me. ฅ^•ﻌ•^ฅ♡
My toys find this sort of bondage very helpful in feeling completely dehumanized. The mittens turning their hands into useless stumps also helps. Using the hood to to take Sight, Sound, and Speech im making each of them feel like an object, a thing, not a human at all.
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